Unity or Dis-Unity

"Marriage can only move two ways. It can either move towards unity or it can move towards dis-unity. It never stays in one place." - Pastor Tom Hux (One of the most brilliant people I have ever met.)

When I heard this the other day I thought, "Excuse me? Not true...Ryan and I are fine. We aren't going backwards, we aren't moving towards dis-unity, ok, maybe we haven't fostered some great quality time recently, but doesn't that mean we are just "holding court" for the time being? That's ok for now right?" Sadly, for me, wrong. The more I thought about it, the more I realized, just like always, he was right, and I was wrong. Crap. The thought of Ryan and I moving towards dis-unity scares me. I get it, the point is to always being moving towards unity, to always be "working on each other." Geez, that's crazy hard work!! I mean he's a football coach, that would mean during the season we are always moving towards dis-unity right? Wrong again Emily. (Sensing a pattern here?) Let's face it, I am LAZY! When you think of relationships in general only moving two ways, towards unity or dis-unity, that's a lot to wrap your head around. That's a ton of work!! I guess creativity is key here, on both of our parts. And I suppose it's natural to sometimes move backward as long as you then take major steps to move forward. Friendships, co-workers, etc, do those relationships have the same movement? This is exhausting to think about!! Pastor Tom did one thing though, he deffenitly got his point across. I get it Tom!! You don't have to scream it at me! (Just kidding, he would never do that.) The bottom line: More movement towards unity, less towards dis-unity. Easier said then done :)